Monday 27 August 2018

Mixed Married / Kahwin Campur

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Allow me to share my experience for today post 😚

Who don't want to get married ? Well in Quran already stated that this statement. Soon or later you will see and stay with your soulmate, InshaAllah. Yes I just get married with someone I never expected that I will get married 😏 

I think we always hear, ' do not fall in love with someone too much' and vice versa. Right? It is funny but yes it is happen to me now. I said once that I will never fall in love or married with someone is younger than me and guest what ??!! My husband is younger than me 😂😂

Okay let's start from beginning. My first professional career works as Trainee Supervisor at M*. *I* and he is my own staff, meaning I have to handle him as my staff 😊 Actually the first time I saw him inside RapidKL Bus heading to Jaya One, PJ. That day is Monday yes I still remember.😎 That day is the first day working there and he inside the bus and actually we stop at the same place. The moment I want to click the bell, he clicked first . (Ahh jodoh sangat 😆)

Okay let's move bit forward. I though he is Malay guy seriously ! no joke but then when I saw his punch card, Allah he is Chinese because got Chong as surname. Day by day we get close as a workmate only, but soon he shows interest on me (gatalllll 😂😂😂) So yes first time he ask for my phone number, so cool because asked personally ( i likeeee 😝) so yeahh just give my phone number

Well it is so awkward first time ever I text with Chinese guy, I don't know what to say, how to text ( kene type mandarin character ke) it's mixed feeling. But yeahh since I am overthinking person there's a lot inside my mind. Thank to Allah he so cool and yes we speak in English ( thanks to him I can improve my english better)

Day by day I felt something about him but when he tried to create the relationship, straight I said , I just broke up and phobia with guys( seriously he is the first guy i passed my number when I'm stay KL that time) and worst part is, because of previous history,  I am depressed and really take very very long time to cure. I always cried to Him, read Quran, solat sunat but still same it's become so deep inside. I still remember that time, I was so bored and just hang out alone at KL Sentral and just want to hear his voice, as usual we fight and I said about my problem, he said he will never accept if I got that situation because scared effect to our family later. He said don't want his kids get effect because of me. He did said, he don't care how many years that relationship is but he need to prevent and save his family. I said, wow okay 😇

I said the same thing to Chong about my problem. Well he is bit different. He said, let find solution together. I never expect he will said those word. Feel blessed and thankful to Allah 😊. Of course we fight a lot because of my problem but slowly I can solve it and try to face my reality.

My father of course so shocked know that his own daughter fall in love with Chinese guy and it is non Muslim. But after they met and clarify everything, he welcome J into our family. In short, we get engaged on 17 March 2018 and get married on 04 May 2018 . Yes it is only few month after get engaged. Sometimes I was thinking it is a right path, decision that I made? But my best friend said, Kun Fa Ya Kun so I said yes maybe because of that. Look people, I met my husband only for few month after I broke up with my ex. Some people said why so fast I can get replacement. No ! it is not replacement. I did not imagine he as a replacement. He come as a normal friend only, and the things just happen like that. 

Do you think it is easy for my husband and I faced this relationship ? Definitely NO. We came from two different races, culture, and religion only stay in one same country 😆 . He is Eurasian. Which is his mother is Eurasian and his father Chinese. Until now, we try our best to convince both of our parents that we are not like any other couple. And now I am so proud to being call as Mrs Chong 😍

To ladies and gentleman. Do not hesitate or scared get along or friend with non muslim people. C'mon they are human also, just friend as usual. For the next part it is depends on situation or people itself. Thanks to my husbnad, now I become more open minded about other races and religion. Not only with my own world.

If you guys read this post, thank you so much feel free to read about my personal share. Till we meet again in good content in future. InshaAllah  


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Sunday 26 August 2018

God is the Best Planner !

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After so long, now I've come back to this world. This is the story of my life. The real story. Just as a reminder, motivation or maybe you can called as advice from woman to woman especially. 

The story begin this year 2018. I can said 2018 really change my entire life totally. How you describe love? What is love to you? For me, when you accept everything about he/she, you care about he/she, you feel worried when he/she do something wrong, dangerous, and when you can accept all bad and good about he/she that is love. You can love your family (of course), friends and to her / him .

I can said he is my first love but everything not going like what I had plan before. 5-6 years involved in relationship is not a trophy for you to be with that person till the rest of your life. Yes we start 'meet each other at Facebook'actually, ( orang kata cinta muka buku) 😅 then we start see each other face to face maybe few weeks or months after change phone number.

I can said I learn a lot of things from him especially something related to life. Being independent, do not put hope on people, do not wait on people and etc. Then our love story start until we enter the same uni (UiTM Segamat). I don't want to share too deep, (for those who know me know the rest of history). 

Me myself is someone is hard to say NO to something or someone. For example, during our long long relationship it is hard for me to say No to this relationship. Swear to Allah that is me. Most of the time when we had serious fight or big fight he will said ' Okay Kita Break' And every time when he said those word, i felt like my world is gone, what will happen to me when I am single, what people will said to me about him, EVERYTHING just poop up in my mind that time. When i felt scared straight ASAP i will apologize, try to win his heart 💓 I will do everything to not end this relationship. I will put down my ego until the ground and just listen whatever he said to me, scold me even said 'those' word to me. As a woman yes I have to do something but because of love no I just don't want to end the relationship only. 

Year by year, when he always said those word I started to feel 'tawar hati' , 'kosong' and etc. I can said during our relatioship, you can count by finger how many times I'm with my phone play Whatsapp, Text message or talked to the phone. He's someone that don't like this kind of things. When he felt want to  contact anytime can contact or when missed me that anytime can contact me. This is one of the TOP point why we always fight. Yes you can said I am clingy or whatsoever but I just need his attention. Can you imagine, tired from class, meeting, assignment and in your mind you only what him / her just to share your story but that things is not happen to me. Every time i called, must be in wrong timing. Either, play games (DOTA) with friends, fishing or do his homework or assignment. The things is, every time I called him on different timing ! You want me to expect or do graph isn't about your activity?? Logic, before you sleep you will look at your phone to see FaceBook (obviously), but you cannot call me or message to ask about me????

Yes this kind of attitude and situation really teach me to be more and more independent woman. One day he said ' do not become too independent because when be that one you will gone'So yes when I become too independent I didn't focus on him at all, I just enjoy my life at KL that time because started internship and first job there. I think I give  him some clue something when meet him during Ramadhan last year or last two year. I said 'I felt awkward when meet you'

One day he said again that word to me and I think this is too much, for this long relationship you still easily said those word and what will happen when we married later? Easily lafaz talak?? BIG NO . Few days later he called me and try to get back, at first I said give me time and after few weeks if I'm not mistaken, when he called me i said 'it is better for us to become friend only' He try to fixed but my heart said it is enough. No more .

Yes, my mother especially very shock about this news because his mother and my mother friends since they working at the same place long time before. I said just let me with this decision. Do not asked why or what. It is me who faced this situation. 

To ladies out there, when you fall in love with someone, please stay with your own principle and when please remember people, COMMUNICATION is very important. Some people do not believe include him and see what happen. Okay fell a bit okay after write about this, when you plan something always remember, pray to God and learn to accept Qada and Qadar Allah . 

If you guys read this post, thank you so much feel free to read about my personal share. Till we meet again in good content in future. InshaAllah                                         

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